Even under the best of circumstances—when people have used mediation, counseling, or collaborative law to create a
Emotional Baggage Delays Your Stepfamily Development
This is especially true when addictive personalities remarry without having examined their relationship patterns. A remarriage might start before, or while, adults are in recovery. As the recovery process evolves, family dynamics change, and such shifts may affect newly developing stepfamily relationships. Remarried adults need to understand which issues belong to Stepfamily Living, and which reflect the recovery processor that of an unresolved addiction.
None of us ever completely rid ourselves of all our "baggage." That's part of the lifelong growth process but, to get a headstart on creating a successful stepfamily, it's wise to examine relationships and communication patterns with people in our lives. Then, before remarriage, do what it takes to identify and improve them. Clear communication and skill-building is the most effective way to strengthen a stepfamily—especially during those first vulnerable years.
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